“As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a physical pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.” -Henry David Thoreau
Have you ever wondered how a person achieves high self worth? In my experience, it’s become very obvious that self worth is not built or acquired solely based on our circumstances.
I may meet two different people with very similar backgrounds but who have radically different levels of self worth. One will be confident, comfortable with who they are, and value themselves highly. The other will be insecure, self-destructive, and have low feelings of self worth.
What makes the difference?
Here’s the truth: the thoughts we THINK on a daily basis have the power to dramatically impact our feelings of self worth, for better or for worse. Our repeated thoughts become our deep seated beliefs, and these drive our emotions and our behaviors. Sometimes, even more often than not, these behaviors can result in a negative opinion of ourselves. We are daily surrounded by a whirlwind of media; all giving us a measure to live up to.
It doesn’t happen overnight but with commitment, “changing your mind” is absolutely possible. It is also the only way to real, lasting growth.
If you are:
- Having a hard time sticking to your goals long-term
- Often struggle with feelings of self-loathing
- Feel depressed and discouraged when you are alone
- Are constantly seeking validation from external sources
- Not making your own needs a priority
…then the following thought habits could be life-changing for you.
Here are 7 thought habits of people with high self worth.
The following are ways of thinking that help support feelings of self worth. I recommend picking a few of these to write on your mirror and say to yourself often. Especially when negative thoughts begin to seep in, use these phrases to replace them.
#1 I am worthy of love, no matter what.
#2 I fully accept every part of myself and am at peace with who I am.
#3 I am allowed to feel any and all emotions that come to me.
#4 I trust myself enough to make my own decisions.
#5 I am strong enough to walk away from relationships that aren’t right for me.
#6 I am enough.
#7 I fill my time with experiences that bring me passion, fulfillment and joy.
Dare to Be
Just thinking these once or twice and then forgetting them is not going to help you. You’ve got to really make these a part of your daily thought patterns until they become ingrained. Put them somewhere that you read them everyday. Say them outloud frequently and loudly.
It’s not about puffing up our ego or a false sense of security, but about recognizing that you are valuable. Don’t waste your time on things not worth your time. Dare to be bold. Dare to be individual. You are, just by being, quite the miracle. Dare to be that miracle and change your world.