Love is a powerful thing. It fuels our soul. It makes the sun feel brighter, the air feel warmer, and so many things in our lives feel right when the vibrancy of love exists in our hearts. For those of us who love hard, we can tell you that living life through this beautiful lens of love is one of the most euphoric experiences as a human.
At the same time, don’t be fooled; those of us that love hard often have our hearts broken even harder. Even after we have experienced heart break, us ‘love hards’ have an uncanny ability to continue to choose love time and time again. So many people ask me … How?
How after so much heart break, and so many tears, can you so effortlessly choose love? Especially knowing the possibility of heartbreak could come again at any time?
Because after all, you cannot choose to love fully without being vulnerable.Vulnerability means opening yourself up and taking a risk of being hurt, and still choosing to love anyway.
Living a life of Love
Imagine being able to live love at its fullest. In every moment and over time, experiencing and transforming love into a permanent state of being.
I am here to tell you, that it IS possible. It has the potential of being the ultimate level of fulfillment to ever give to yourself and those around you. It is important to understand that love is a form of being and essentially is the baseline that everything emerges from. It is important to differentiate real love from the feelings that are inspired by love. We often forget how deep genuine love really is, and how it is far more powerful than its temporary emotions. Love really is an integral state of being that remains in a constant state of rediscovery.
Every relationship we hold with a person, place, or thing can be nourished by love. Each relationship also holds within it a different level of love and emotion. Love can be represented in many forms; compassion, joy, gratitude, respect, and intimacy to name a few. While these representations are what love can feel like, they are still only scratching the surface of the true power of love.
What is Love
Love is a universal language known to man. Anyone can understand an act of love and even if you personally express love differently, it’s still there. Love commands basic emotions, triggers a slew of wonderful feelings, and has the unique tendency to dissolve negative feelings almost immediately.
It’s easy to make the mistake of reducing love to a level of emotion. In doing this, we are diluting the power that is love. This leads to us settling for small love experiences. Experiences come and go, giving the appearance of love seeming or feeling temporary like all emotions. While happiness, sadness, and other feelings are emotions, love is not an emotion, but a state of being. When we acknowledge love as a state of being, we actually are allowing ourselves to experience a whole different level of emotions. Even when we may be experiencing unhappiness, it still can be rooted in love.
“Love is a state of being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you. It is not dependent on some other body, some external form.” – Eckart Tolle
How to chose Love
I thought one night about how we treat our hearts like rubber-bands. For example, in romantic relationships, we expand our hearts to the feelings of love. The moment we experience heartbreak, however, we shrink back to our original, protected shape and selves. We resume subjecting ourselves to the fear of choosing love.
So many of us put our guard up, take breaks from dating, cringe at the thought of even putting ourselves out there, and give ourselves nightmares thinking we have to start all over again. But, this is where continuing to choose love is actually the most meaningful, and has the greatest impact in building the mindset of falling in love with Love. The ability to choose love can only be chosen by you. I promise you, that no matter the relationship or subject matter you are in, whether it be romance, or through forgiveness, choosing love will always lead to ultimate peace in your life.
Living in a state of love is choosing love continuously, and unapologetically – regardless of the emotional states that come with. Getting in touch with love as a state of being is where we ultimately get to discover who we really are and find our ultimate purpose. Love is a practice of self expansion. While love may feel majestic in so many ways, your soul is actually opening up opportunities to experience who you really are. Love is not something we simply should just want to experience, but rather a state of being we strive to envelop.
Love is everywhere around us and it is always waiting to be discovered.